Every one can understand it as better it seems to him. Perhaps, the boy to be responsible is to finish the task, but for the father, he is to finish the task, to gather equipment, to keep them in the knapsack, etc. Thus we required to be specific and clear in which to the formation of habits and communication one talks about. To speak of assertive way, signs and clear it does not leave place to doubts, the people know exactly what they must and they need to realise. To have clarity gives confidence, it gives security, and in addition a sensation to fulfill the expectations than it requests itself to us. Some advice practical to be able to put into action the EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION, that is characterized, as it were mentioned previously, by concrete firmness, clarity and being: He does not shout and one gets angry giving the instructions. He knows specifically that he needs and pdalo of assertive way.
It speaks watching the person, otherwise, its message is in the air. The visual contact is one of the most powerful tools in the communication. The person feels that she is spoken to him with respect and that in addition is seen psychologically, which repels in autorrespeto sensation and considers own. In the interactions with our children, always we fall in which it is had dice in calling the moments of " disc rayado". When demanding some situation, the children insist and insist, on the same, time and time again and until the infinite.
It seems that our words do not manage to convince it don’t mention it. And sometimes, the parents, we answered in the same way the same lined disc time and time again. So that to avoid, these useless discussions, we required to answer our children, with the same technique that they use with us, that is to say, to repeat time and time again, the same order until she is fulfilled, in consistent and clear form.